Sane gender is probably very, very funny.Ĭonsensual gender is respecting each others definitions of gender, and respecting the intentions of others to be inclusive in their own time.Ĭonsensual gender is non violent in that it doesn't force its way in on anyone.Ĭonsensual gender opens its arms and welcomes all people as gender outcasts - whoever is willing to admit to it. Sane gender is asking questions about gender - talking to people who do gender and opening up about our gender histories and our gender desires. Safe gender is not being pressured into passing, not having to lie, not having to hide. Safe gender is going as far in an direction as we wish with not threats to our health, or to anyone else's. Safe gender is being who and what we want to be when we want to be that, with no threat censure or violence. We have no say in our gender - we're not allowed to question it, play with it, work it out with our friends, lovers or family. It's documented by the state, enforced by the legal profession, sanctified by the church, and it's bought and sold in the media. We're born: a doctor assigns us a gender. Kate’s stage work includes the solo performance pieces The Opposite Sex Is Neither, Virtually Yours, and. It's not sane that we classify people in order to oppress them as women or glorify them as men. Kate Bornstein divides their time between New York City and the Rhode Island shore. It's not sane to demand we fit into one or the other only. It's not sane to call a rainbow black and white. If I'm born with a body that gives mixed gender signals, I'm at risk of being butchered - fixed, mutilated. If i change my gender, I'm at risk of homocide, suicide or a life devoid of half my responsibilities. “I think gender can take a lesson from sadomasochism (S/M): gender needs to be safe, sane, and consensual.

Gender Outlaw by Kate Bornstein